Premature Ejaculation - What’s Your Breaking Point?

Men are generally a proud lot that even if anyone of them is suffering from some form sexual dysfunction they won’t talk about. Research however shows that a majority of women than men suffer from sexual dysfunction.

Premature ejaculation is the most common sexual dysfunction suffered by men. Any man who cannot sustain an erection normally feels that he is not man enough. This might lead to high stress levels and withdrawal from your peers. The fact that men hush up the various problems that afflicts them makes them feel like they are the only ones suffering from the problem. However, if they could talk about their problems, several other people will come up with their problems. Realizing that you are not the only one, suffering from a problem, may make the situation bearable.

Several men do not clearly understand what premature ejaculation means. When does it become a premature ejaculation? Experts contend that a man should ejaculate on average three minutes after the start of the intercourse. Thus, informed definition of premature ejaculation is, when a man ejaculates at a time that he did not wish it to occur. When a man prematurely ejaculates it makes it hard for him to satisfy his partner because his erection suddenly goes limp.

Premature ejaculation is normally measured in how long it takes for an ejaculation. Practically, time is not normally the issue but the ability to control your ejaculation. Men find it really frustrating if they can not control when to ejaculate. A man might last for close to ten minutes before ejaculating while he might consider himself a hero for this; another may view it as too short. One mans meat might be another mans poison, so goes the saying.

Containing The Problem

Lasting longer before ejaculation is not a sign of a genetic problem. No one is born with the ability to last longer. People practice the procedure and perfect it with time. Thus, if you are facing this kind of problem, worry no more. Ejaculation is a process that normally starts from the prostrate gland. The prostrate gland contracts subsequently releasing its fluids together with the seminal fluid. The second stage of course involves the contraction of the pelvic muscle that subsequently makes the seminal fluid to be ejaculated with lots of pressure. A common myth is that you cannot ejaculate without achieving an orgasm. Experts however, dismiss this myth by saying that it is possible to ejaculate without achieving an orgasm.

Seeking Help

This problem can be cured. It only needs a strong will power of admitting that you have a problem. After coming out of the closet, you can commit yourself to invest your precious time and energy to eliminate this problem. Therapy can also help a great deal. You should also be able to fully understand how your body functions to ensure you know exactly when an ejaculation will occur so that you can control it.

Curing Premature Ejaculation

One of the methods that men use in curing premature ejaculation is the “stop and start” method. This involves just coming up to nearly the point of ejaculation and then ceasing the thrusting before you release. You can then begin thrusting when the drive of ejaculation has subsided, and you can do this for a number of times.

This method can also be tried using your sex partner’s mouth, hand or even by oneself. It requires some time to master it since one may ejaculate accidentally.

Breathe Control

Breath control can be used to control ejaculation. When one takes some deep breaths, it helps him relax and calms the tension and arousal that usually lead one to ejaculate prematurely. One should try some deep and relaxed breathing to relax his whole body.

Communication

This is another way of prolonging sex with your partner. Tell your partner to slow down when you feel you are about to ejaculate. You should use actual words as nonverbal signs may be misunderstood. Words such as “start”, “stop”, “hold on” and other short precise verbs are acceptable.

Avoid Anxiety

Anxiety and fear are other causes of premature ejaculation. Get to know and be comfortable with your partner. Be consenting and relaxed when you want to have sex in order to kill any anxiety that might come up and spoil the sex by making one to ejaculate prematurely.

Second Round

Men usually go further in the second round of having sex than the first one. Try to include this round when you are making love to your partner. After the first round, relax your partner with some foreplay or a massage before you start the second round.

Use Creams

Use of desensitizing creams can help men last longer during intercourse because they help to reduce the sensations that is felt during the act. One problem with these creams is that many men feel that they make sex less pleasurable because they reduce stimulation.

Condoms

Apart from protecting against pregnancy and STDs, condoms also lessen the stimulation that is experienced during intercourse. This reduced stimulation makes many men to go further during intercourse.

Lovemaking Position

The position that a man chooses to make love in may affect his ability to last longer. Missionary position makes many men ejaculate quickly and may therefore be avoided if one wants to last longer. However, every man is different and what works for one may not work for the other, some men ejaculate prematurely when there partner is on top or in control.

Experimenting with the different positions will make one know which position is best for him.

Perform Kegels

Strong and well developed pelvic muscles ensure that one is in better control and makes one aware of the happenings in the lower regions. The pelvic floor muscles are the ones responsible for starting and stopping urination. You can strengthen them by holding and relaxing them at intervals of three seconds. This exercise can be repeated up to 10 times in a day.

The exercise can be done at any place and at any time. With time, you should progress and be able to hold and relax them at intervals of 10 seconds, repeated 100 times in a day.

Conclusion

Men who experience premature ejaculation can easily control the condition through patience, knowledge and making an effort. It is also easier to counter the physical and mental aspects of premature ejaculation when both partners are aware of the condition, are free to discuss it and are involved in controlling it.